Welcome Gan. Thanks for the link. I did not know Aileen Wuornos was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. When I saw videos of her with her eyes bugging out and hallucinating, she appeared to be insane and if she can be executed, Arias, whom one of the dismissed jurors described as appearing "normal" in the courtroom, certainly qualifies for the needle.
I just found a fascinating article on the Borderline Personality's Love Relationships that explains why Travis Alexander might have been drawn in to the web of Jodi Arias. Here's some excerpts to show how much it describes Jodi Arias and her behavior.
Love: The Vulnerable Seducer Phase
At first, a Borderline female may appear sweet, shy, vulnerable and "ambivalently in need of being rescued"; looking for her Knight in Shining Armor.
In the beginning, you will feel a rapidly accelerating sense of compassion because she is a master at portraying herself as the "victim of love" and you are saving her. But listen closely to how she sees herself as a victim. As her peculiar emotional invasion advances upon you, you will hear how no one understands her - except you. Other people have been "insensitive." She has been betrayed, just when she starts trusting people. But there is something "special" about you, because "you really seem to know her."
It is this intense way she has of bearing down on you emotionally that can feel very seductive. You will feel elevated, adored, idealized - almost worshiped, maybe even to the level of being uncomfortable. And you will feel that way quickly. It may seem like a great deal has happened between the two of you in a short period of time, because conversation is intense, her attention, and her eyes are so deeply focused on you.
Here is a woman who may look like a dream come true. She not only seems to make you the center of her attention, but she even craves listening to your opinions, thoughts and ideas. It will seem like you have really found your heart's desire.
Like many things that seems too good to be true, this is. This is borderline personality disorder.
It will all seem so real because it is real in her mind. But what is in her mind it is not what you perceive to be happening.
Sky and Chris Hughes said Alexander and they thought when they met Arias that she was the perfect girl for Travis. She was a nice sweet shy girl and then they started noticing she was clingy and wouldn't leave him alone. She felt like she was Cinderella at the ball when the Prince asked her to the dance and Sky loaned her a dress. She told Sky shortly after she met him that she had a vision she was going to marry Travis and have his babies.
Love: The Clinger Phase
Once she has successfully candied her hook with your adoration, she will weld it into place by “reeling in” your attention and concern. Her intense interest in you will subtly transform over time. She still appears to be interested in you, but no longer in what you are interested in. Her interest becomes your exclusive interest in her. This is when you start to notice “something”. Your thoughts, feelings and ideas fascinate her, but more so when they focus on her. You can tell when this happens because you can feel her "perk-up" emotionally whenever your attention focuses upon her feelings and issues. Those moments can emotionally hook your compassion more deeply into her, because that is when she will treat you well - tenderly.
She is depressed or anxious, detached and indifferent or vulnerable and hypersensitive. She can swing from elated agitation to mournful gloom at the blink of an eye. Watching the erratic changes in her moods is like tracking the needle on a Richter-scale chart at the site of an active volcano, and you never know which flick of the needle will predict the big explosion.
Sex will be incredible. She will be instinctually tuned in to reading your needs. It will seem wonderful - for a while.
The intensity of her erotic passion can sweep you away, but her motive is double-edged. One side of it comes from the instinctually built-in, turbulent emotionality of her disorder. Intensity is her trump-card.
But the other side of her is driven by an equally instinctually and concentrated need to control you. The sexual experiences, while imposing, are motivated from a desire to dominate you, not please you. Her erotic intensity will be there in a cunning way tailored so you will not readily perceive it.
“I love you” means – “I need you to love me”. “That was the best ever for me” means – tell me “it was the best ever for you”. Show me that I have you.
In one of the text messages to Jodi, Travis said he thought she loved him but he realized she wasn't interested in anything that didn't concern her. He was offended that she asked for one of his paintings right before she moved back to Yreka and he signed it for her and then she left it behind. He said he knew she did it on purpose so he couldn't give it to anyone else. That's why she killed him too. She didn’t want him anymore because he wasn’t going to marry her so she murdered him so no one else could have him. She stabbed him over and over to make him suffer so he would feel the pain she felt when he rejected her. He also complained that she was crying all the time because her feelings were hurt but she didn't care about his feelings. He told Taylor Searle he knew he shouldn't have sex with Jodi because of his LDS beliefs but he couldn't resist her.
Love: The Hater Phase
Once a Borderline Controller has succeeded and is in control, the Hater appears. This hateful part of her may have emerged before, but you probably will not see it in full, acidic bloom until she feels she has achieved a firm hold on your conscience and compassion. But when that part makes its first appearance, rage is how it breaks into your life.
What gives this rage its characteristically borderline flavor is that it is very difficult for someone witnessing it to know what triggered it in reality. But that is its primary identifying clue: the actual rage-trigger is difficult for you to see. But in the Borderline's mind it always seems to be very clear. To her, there is always a cause. And the cause is always you. Whether it is the tone of your voice, how you think, how you feel, dress, move or breathe - or "the way you're looking at me," - she will always justify her rage by blaming you for "having to hurt her."
Rage reactions are also unpredictable and unexpected. They happen when you least expect it. And they can become extremely dangerous. It all serves to break you down over time. Your self esteem melts away. You change and alter your behavior in hopes of returning to the “Clinger Stage”. And periodically you will, but only to cycle back to the hater when you least expect it, possibly on her birthday, or your anniversary.
This is Jodi Arias all right. The hater came out when she kicked her mother, kicked doors and punched holes in walls, slashed the tires of Travis and Lisa twice, sent the threatening email to Lisa and stabbed Travis to death in his shower after having sex with him.
http://bpdfamily.com/bpdresources/nk_a101.htm